National Best Friends Day

Today is National Best Friends Day    It is a day to celebrate your best friend(s) and let them know what they mean to you.

I think the last time I used the term “best friend” was when I was in college. Now, I am blessed to have people in my life that I refer to as “close” friends instead of “best friends.” My “best” friends are my “close” friends.

Whether I have known them for decades or days, they all add something to my life that if they were not here, they would be sorely missed.  My “close” friends are small in number, in my opinion, that is as it should be. I don’t try to amass close friendships the way people are seeking “likes” on Facebook. True friendships take more time to evolve and grow than Facebook would like us to believe.   I have many “acquaintances”, but few who I would consider to be “close friends.”

My close friends don’t pick my brain and then turn a knife in my back for their own benefit. They don’t feign liking me one day, and then have nothing to do with me the next. My close friends aren’t “yes” people to me or to anyone else. They care enough to not just tell me what I WANT to hear, but often will tell me what I need to hear, even if it is sometimes painful, as I do for them.

My close friends are friends where I never question their motives, I never question my trust for them. My close friendships just ARE. My communication with them is easy, natural, genuine, Those close friendships are sometimes painfully REAL. I am grateful for those friendships.

If I were to be asked  to pinpoint when those close friendships evolved, in many instances I wouldn’t be able to. Many of my closest friendships were unexpected, oftentimes on the surface they would appear to be “unlikely”. To me those are some of my favorite and most cherished friendships.

“Unexpected friendships are the BEST ones.”

I am grateful for my close friends, and I deeply love each and every one of them.